Okay guys, you have joined an online dating service and wrote the best online dating profile possible along with a good picture. You’ve got a few “hits” and are now ready to chat with a prospect. What do you do now? How do you start separating those who have real potential from those who don’t have any potential at all?

What you need to do is find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find out these things without asking her direct. After all, you want to avoid making mistakes and instead impress this lady eventually.

After you get past some of the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences with dating online and help you to avoid making the same mistakes.

This may be the most important one… “What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.